A few years ago, my son had an accident - in my car. I was asleep at the time. I always kept the keys in the bookcase. He took out a guardrail and totaled my car. The insurance wouldn't pay for it, and he received a bill for $2, 500 and something. I didn't think much of it until last fall when he and I received a law suit for nearly $30, 000 - 10 times the original amount!!!!! I don't know how this happened. I wrote a response and filed it with the court.
Two months later, we received a judgment - we never even heard anything about a hearing!
I contacted the department of transportation, and all they will say is that the accident took place. I know that, but a guardrail does not cost $30,000 to repair according to my research.
Does anybody know anything about this problem? Can anybody help? I'm disabled with a very limited monthly stipend, and my son will probably be disabled soon, too.
Any ideas?
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Friday, February 17, 2012
Waiting to hear
I went last week for my disability exam. Was hoping to hear from them this week that I got it. Got a letter today, and I need to call them within the next 10 days, or I'll loose. I'm wondering how much I'll get - if I get it. The county only offered $850, but my SS report from years ago said over $2,000. Surely, teaching for 20 years and working since I was 13 should bring in a little more than the people I worked with at the homeless shelter who hadn't worked! We'll see.
I haven't really felt like doing too much. I'd like to tutor, write, counsel, and do my crafts. So far, I've been too tired to do anything. I went to the grocery store yesterday afternoon, and today, I am so tired that I fell asleep this afternoon watching television! I really hate that as I am used to working, and I can't understand why I can't get enough energy to do something!
I haven't really felt like doing too much. I'd like to tutor, write, counsel, and do my crafts. So far, I've been too tired to do anything. I went to the grocery store yesterday afternoon, and today, I am so tired that I fell asleep this afternoon watching television! I really hate that as I am used to working, and I can't understand why I can't get enough energy to do something!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
The Old Year Passes
Here it is - only a week until Christmas and in 2, it will be the New Year! It's just amazing to me how quickly the years fly by! I didn't think too much about the quickness until the kids started noticing it, too. When teenagers notice how fast time is going, it must be moving, indeed.
I got the presents wrapped and sent to the family away - well, for Ella and baby Aubrey who will make her appearance in early February. I made the neatest thing for Ella, a Ruprecht branch! Instead of a stocking, she has birch branches with her treats glued to them. It was a tradition in Germany when I lived there. The branches were delivered on Dec. 6th - Nicholaustag. Good little children got branches with candies and gifts and bad ones got coal and cotton on their branches. Of course, we know that all little children are good, right? So, Ella got toys and candies on her branches.
I made her the cutest little purple monkey for her Christmas. It's so cute. I hope she likes it. Aubrey's sweater is a little big for a newborn, but they grow so fast, and in Colorado, you often need a sweater at any time.
I have my ticket for baby time! I'll be out there for the baby coming. Ben will be here, and the girls will drop in while I'm gone.
I got the presents wrapped and sent to the family away - well, for Ella and baby Aubrey who will make her appearance in early February. I made the neatest thing for Ella, a Ruprecht branch! Instead of a stocking, she has birch branches with her treats glued to them. It was a tradition in Germany when I lived there. The branches were delivered on Dec. 6th - Nicholaustag. Good little children got branches with candies and gifts and bad ones got coal and cotton on their branches. Of course, we know that all little children are good, right? So, Ella got toys and candies on her branches.
I made her the cutest little purple monkey for her Christmas. It's so cute. I hope she likes it. Aubrey's sweater is a little big for a newborn, but they grow so fast, and in Colorado, you often need a sweater at any time.
I have my ticket for baby time! I'll be out there for the baby coming. Ben will be here, and the girls will drop in while I'm gone.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Christmas Is A Coming
I can't believe it's been such a long time since I last posted! Things have been rather crazy. My friends say that our life experiences make us stronger, but I think my strength is ready to crack!
My son was arrested in October - his birthday weekend, and may go to prison. Then, I ran out of money - just when he needed an attorney, not to mention that we needed living expenses! I applied for some money from my retirement fund - hardship.
Today, I found out that we had been sued, had a court hearing, and lost - all without being told a court date. Wonderful. And now, I owe the state for a car accident that I didn't know had happened!!!! I just love living here. It amazes me how many things can happen that involve you that the major players don't think you need to know. That way they can collect so many illegal funds! Or so many funds illegally!
Anyway, last month, I had no money, so I tried to get my retirement fund. What a wonderful experience. I even had to have my ex-employer's signature to get the money, so I sent them the papers, and they sat on them for a week.
This wouldn't have been so bad, but I wasn't getting my child support either. I had "cancelled" the card and was supposed to get a new one. After waiting the advised week, I called - and called. The recorded message said that my new card was being processed. I finally got tired of calling and getting canned messages and called another number - where I was told to hang up and dial the first number. I screamed, and they transferred me to the correct number. There I discovered that contrary to the message, my card was NOT being processed, and I would have to pay a $15 fee to have it delivered by UPS in 2 days! I'm so sick of the people who think up these things, calling numbers where no people answer, and sick of US who allow this disrespect to continue. Everyone is so busy trying to make a dollar - from us!
Then, this week, I found an email (finally had the money to get Internet again) from my exhusband. He wants me to call and talk about our son. The son called him 6 WEEKS AGO when this happened, and he (the father) wouldn't talk to him (the son). I guess maybe he's heard from God again? Did I tell you that he (the father) hears voices, and he feels these voices are the voice of God. God saved him from cancer, and now they are best buddies, and he (the father, not God) can do anything he wants because God is on his side. I believe that God does heal, but I don't believe that I can do anything I want because I believe in God.
At any rate, I am really tired of living in this state - I know that no place is perfect, but after 20 years of never catching a break here and being a pretty nice person despite this, I'm just sick of staying here, so....
And Christmas is coming, and it doesn't feel at all like Christmas because it's become such a miserable time.
My son was arrested in October - his birthday weekend, and may go to prison. Then, I ran out of money - just when he needed an attorney, not to mention that we needed living expenses! I applied for some money from my retirement fund - hardship.
Today, I found out that we had been sued, had a court hearing, and lost - all without being told a court date. Wonderful. And now, I owe the state for a car accident that I didn't know had happened!!!! I just love living here. It amazes me how many things can happen that involve you that the major players don't think you need to know. That way they can collect so many illegal funds! Or so many funds illegally!
Anyway, last month, I had no money, so I tried to get my retirement fund. What a wonderful experience. I even had to have my ex-employer's signature to get the money, so I sent them the papers, and they sat on them for a week.
This wouldn't have been so bad, but I wasn't getting my child support either. I had "cancelled" the card and was supposed to get a new one. After waiting the advised week, I called - and called. The recorded message said that my new card was being processed. I finally got tired of calling and getting canned messages and called another number - where I was told to hang up and dial the first number. I screamed, and they transferred me to the correct number. There I discovered that contrary to the message, my card was NOT being processed, and I would have to pay a $15 fee to have it delivered by UPS in 2 days! I'm so sick of the people who think up these things, calling numbers where no people answer, and sick of US who allow this disrespect to continue. Everyone is so busy trying to make a dollar - from us!
Then, this week, I found an email (finally had the money to get Internet again) from my exhusband. He wants me to call and talk about our son. The son called him 6 WEEKS AGO when this happened, and he (the father) wouldn't talk to him (the son). I guess maybe he's heard from God again? Did I tell you that he (the father) hears voices, and he feels these voices are the voice of God. God saved him from cancer, and now they are best buddies, and he (the father, not God) can do anything he wants because God is on his side. I believe that God does heal, but I don't believe that I can do anything I want because I believe in God.
At any rate, I am really tired of living in this state - I know that no place is perfect, but after 20 years of never catching a break here and being a pretty nice person despite this, I'm just sick of staying here, so....
And Christmas is coming, and it doesn't feel at all like Christmas because it's become such a miserable time.
Monday, October 31, 2011
Halloween 2011
My little granddaughter came down to show us her costume (and get her candy!). She was very proud of her school (a 4 star), and her mother hopes that she can still attend it although they have moved to another county.
I need to move to another area of the country. This state is literally killing me. The stress from all the things they did to my kids and me during my divorce and child custody years. Can you believe it took me 8 years to get custody of my children - and I scored the highest on the parenting test of anyone in this area. Why does the court order tests and other things, and when the outcome differs from what they expect, they just ignore it? How children suffer from this attitude!
And the time it takes for judges to make decisions! They either don't realize - more likely don't care - that the child's soul will shrivel and fade away. What is a person without a soul? My son is a prime example of how the courts and their minions literally ruin children's lives. We believe adulthood begins at 18, a fraction of the rest of life, but the most formative years. These are the years when a child's morals and values are formed. By the time, we finally got judge #3 to listen to us, my son was nearly destroyed.
I need to move to another area of the country. This state is literally killing me. The stress from all the things they did to my kids and me during my divorce and child custody years. Can you believe it took me 8 years to get custody of my children - and I scored the highest on the parenting test of anyone in this area. Why does the court order tests and other things, and when the outcome differs from what they expect, they just ignore it? How children suffer from this attitude!
And the time it takes for judges to make decisions! They either don't realize - more likely don't care - that the child's soul will shrivel and fade away. What is a person without a soul? My son is a prime example of how the courts and their minions literally ruin children's lives. We believe adulthood begins at 18, a fraction of the rest of life, but the most formative years. These are the years when a child's morals and values are formed. By the time, we finally got judge #3 to listen to us, my son was nearly destroyed.
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
So much to do~
I still don't have my presentations finished. My printer doesn't work, and I need to make copies of things in order to finish them.. I'm getting a LOT stressed. I WILL get them finished: it's just that I wanted them finished earlier. Unfortunately, I have felt miserable during the last few months and didn't get them finished like I had planned. Nothing goes as planned, though, as you just have to "roll with the punches!"
Well, I must get back to work. Just a couple of weeks until the presentations are due!
Well, I must get back to work. Just a couple of weeks until the presentations are due!
Monday, October 24, 2011
Another Beautiful Day
The titile says it all: today was a beautiful day. It started off slowly, but by noon, the weather was sunny and beautiful. As the days draw closer to winter, these bright sunny days are greatly appreciated.
I've been thinking a lot about dissociation lately. It seems to be a one of those double standard topics. I can dissociate while sitting in a boring lecture or driving down familiar stretches of road, but when it comes to dissociative identity, it can't be done. Why not? Why can't a personality shatter and break into tiny little fragments. After all, the human soul is more fragile than the finest crystal. Thoughtless words break the spirit everyday. Abuse shatters the psyche: it actually is murder. The body continues to live, but the soul is changed forever.
I've been thinking a lot about dissociation lately. It seems to be a one of those double standard topics. I can dissociate while sitting in a boring lecture or driving down familiar stretches of road, but when it comes to dissociative identity, it can't be done. Why not? Why can't a personality shatter and break into tiny little fragments. After all, the human soul is more fragile than the finest crystal. Thoughtless words break the spirit everyday. Abuse shatters the psyche: it actually is murder. The body continues to live, but the soul is changed forever.
Thursday, October 20, 2011
The Visit
Just had a lovely visit from my daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter. We spent a lot of time shopping, talking, going places, etc. The big trip was to the pumpkin patch in southern Indiana. The whole family usually goes. My middle daughter didn't go this time as she and her husband were attending a wedding in Chicago, so they were certainly missed! Little Ella had a great time. She rode the pony three times, played in a corn box (like a sand box), jumped once on the bouncy ride, went down a huge slide with her mother several times, and then went to the pumpkin patch via a hay ride where we picked our pumpkins - personally - from the patch. Ella wanted to carry one of my little gourds, but it met its demise when she tripped on a vine.
Later that evening, we had a family reunion to celebrate Rachel's birthday. Everyone was there but her twin brother, Ben., making the evening bittersweet.
The seven (almost) days that they were here flew by and now leaves a hole in my heart, but it won't be long before I'll be going to Colorado to help out when baby Aubrey arrives!
Later that evening, we had a family reunion to celebrate Rachel's birthday. Everyone was there but her twin brother, Ben., making the evening bittersweet.
The seven (almost) days that they were here flew by and now leaves a hole in my heart, but it won't be long before I'll be going to Colorado to help out when baby Aubrey arrives!
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Wannabe
Watching one of my favorite Without a Trace(s). One of the lines in the show is: How could this kid have so many enemies? Because 75% of us would have followed the Nazi's. Because it's easier to "kick a man when he's down." We follow the crowd AND do what's easiest. It's difficult to stand up for a cause - especially when no one wants to hear. One of the biggest sins that is committed is the sin of complacency. We don't want to hear about the bad in the world. It's just easier to go along with our own life and ignore the suffering in the next world, or the next block, or, next door.
I "enjoy" this episode because it demonstrates how kids can be so cruel to one another - both in person and through cyberbullying. How everone wants to fit in, and how far they'll go in order to do so.
I "enjoy" this episode because it demonstrates how kids can be so cruel to one another - both in person and through cyberbullying. How everone wants to fit in, and how far they'll go in order to do so.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Interesting Day
We had an interesting day. Luckily, nothing big, or bad, happened today. It was rather long as we (my mother and I) went to the doctor today - over an hour a piece! She has to go back Friday afternoon, so I guess I'll be taking my computer and notes and be working on my presentation for November. It's coming up shortly! I still have to finish one and begin the other. Taok about procrastination! Actually, I haven't felt very well. I'm just hoping I'll be able to get up and go on the days they're due; both presentations are early - and in Indianapolis!! Maybe while I'm there, I'l stop by Tony Stewart's office and tell him what I think about Indiana teaching!!!
Back to the presentations: I need to get my texting one on a power point, get my notes done and on a power point, and PRACTICE!!!!!
I still can't get that last episode of Toddlers and Tiaras out of my mind. The mother actually believed that she and her child were one. What a horrible life for that child.
Teen dating violence. How it's changed over the years. I know that kids are still violent - physically - with one another, but like bullying, it has expanded so greatly. Now kids can threaten their "steady" by texting and over the Internet. What a world. Why do people have to be so mean to each other? I just think it's so much easier to be nice to others than mean!
Back to the presentations: I need to get my texting one on a power point, get my notes done and on a power point, and PRACTICE!!!!!
I still can't get that last episode of Toddlers and Tiaras out of my mind. The mother actually believed that she and her child were one. What a horrible life for that child.
Teen dating violence. How it's changed over the years. I know that kids are still violent - physically - with one another, but like bullying, it has expanded so greatly. Now kids can threaten their "steady" by texting and over the Internet. What a world. Why do people have to be so mean to each other? I just think it's so much easier to be nice to others than mean!
Saturday, September 24, 2011
Whew! It's been a long time!
I haven't written for a while - I've been sick! I don't know why I'm so tired all the time. I guess it's the fibromyalgia. Which is not good because I wanted to get started with life coaching, at the least and try to build up a client list. But, all I've done is sleep, get up, and rest. I think I might be feeling a little better - just not much.
I have finally begun to work on my presentations on Teen Dating Violence and Texting, Sexting, and Cyberbullying. I need to finish up my notes for the texting presentation and get dating violence one done. Well, as Scarlet said, "After all, tomorrow is another day!"
I don't know why, but I love watching "Toddlers in Tiaras." The show this past week was really revealing. I couldn't believe the woman who actually believed that she and her daughter were one in feeling about pageants! Most, no all, appear to believe that they are actually taking their children to pageants because the child enjoys them! At 2 weeks?! Come on? These women need to get another hobby. Maybe they should take up knitting. I enjoy it!
Well, I'm glad to be back and hope to write more frequently.
Ciau.
I have finally begun to work on my presentations on Teen Dating Violence and Texting, Sexting, and Cyberbullying. I need to finish up my notes for the texting presentation and get dating violence one done. Well, as Scarlet said, "After all, tomorrow is another day!"
I don't know why, but I love watching "Toddlers in Tiaras." The show this past week was really revealing. I couldn't believe the woman who actually believed that she and her daughter were one in feeling about pageants! Most, no all, appear to believe that they are actually taking their children to pageants because the child enjoys them! At 2 weeks?! Come on? These women need to get another hobby. Maybe they should take up knitting. I enjoy it!
Well, I'm glad to be back and hope to write more frequently.
Ciau.
Friday, July 15, 2011
I accomplished something!
Today was a good day. We had a class at Ivy Tech to go over the new reading program that they're implementing this fall. It's going to be very interesting. I love the new Internet program that can accompany the text. It's especially great because the quizzes will be graded immediately, and I won't have to grade them anymore!
This afternoon, I stayed at my daughter's apartment, so that her boyfriend could move their things while she was at work. He didn't have to unlock the door all the time, and I worked on reading things for my presentations in November. The sexting and cyberbullying information was expecially interesting. I have some more things to look up concerning laws and what we can do to prevent kids from ruining their lives with these ways of communication. Now, if we can just get parents to also control themselves!
I watched a new to me show last night: Dance Mom. I can't believe how those women acted on national television! I don't know if it's scripted, or not, but it's unbelievable how they behave. Just like the Toddlers in Tiaras. How can those women be so agressive and have such high expectations of their small children? No positive role models there.
This afternoon, I stayed at my daughter's apartment, so that her boyfriend could move their things while she was at work. He didn't have to unlock the door all the time, and I worked on reading things for my presentations in November. The sexting and cyberbullying information was expecially interesting. I have some more things to look up concerning laws and what we can do to prevent kids from ruining their lives with these ways of communication. Now, if we can just get parents to also control themselves!
I watched a new to me show last night: Dance Mom. I can't believe how those women acted on national television! I don't know if it's scripted, or not, but it's unbelievable how they behave. Just like the Toddlers in Tiaras. How can those women be so agressive and have such high expectations of their small children? No positive role models there.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
I can't believe it's July already!
Wow! Time is sure flying by - and I'm not getting anything done!! For some reason, I've been especially tired lately, so I'm going for bloodwork Monday to see if there is anything missing from my blood. Sounds like fun.
Anyway, that's what's going on right now, and I will get busy as soon as I feel better. I HATE not working!
Anyway, that's what's going on right now, and I will get busy as soon as I feel better. I HATE not working!
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Looking to the future
There was once a time when I didn't think that there would be a future, but, it is here. I look forward to finally being able to do what I have wanted to do for a long time. It's been a long, at times endless, time; often, survival was all that could be hoped for. My children and I have been through so much. I can understand others who are experiencing difficult times, not just through empathy but through having walked in their shoes. When going through troubles, you need an ear to hear; I understand.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
What a beautiful day!
It is really beautiful here in Indiana today. The weather is perfect! I love it when it's not too cold and not too hot - at the "just right" stage.
I am trying to work on my speeches for the Indiana counselors conference. They will be about texting and cyberbullying and on teen dating violence. I'm trying to locate a better computer and a projector as they have to be supplied by the presenter. I have some movie and tv clips that I want to include, so I'm going to have to do a lot of learning in the next few months! I've never tried these things bofore. Gotta learn sometime.
I'm also working to make the house accessible for tutoring and life coaching. So, if anyone needs a tutor or a life coach - or a presentation, I live about an hour south of Indianapolis!
I am trying to work on my speeches for the Indiana counselors conference. They will be about texting and cyberbullying and on teen dating violence. I'm trying to locate a better computer and a projector as they have to be supplied by the presenter. I have some movie and tv clips that I want to include, so I'm going to have to do a lot of learning in the next few months! I've never tried these things bofore. Gotta learn sometime.
I'm also working to make the house accessible for tutoring and life coaching. So, if anyone needs a tutor or a life coach - or a presentation, I live about an hour south of Indianapolis!
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Sad and Lonely
Just got back from putting my daughter and granddaughter on a plane home to Colorado. Feeling rather sad right now. We had a great visit - for the most part - and it seemed way too short.
Now I have to get started doing things in order to start and build up my business. I think my best bet now is to begin a life coaching business and see if prehaps I can work someplace, sometime, as a counselor. I just want to finally accomplish what I have wanted to do for years - help others solve problems.
I've been at the lowest point and understand how difficult this time can be, but it is possible to climb out of that dark hole and begin again. Sappy. Will close for now!
Now I have to get started doing things in order to start and build up my business. I think my best bet now is to begin a life coaching business and see if prehaps I can work someplace, sometime, as a counselor. I just want to finally accomplish what I have wanted to do for years - help others solve problems.
I've been at the lowest point and understand how difficult this time can be, but it is possible to climb out of that dark hole and begin again. Sappy. Will close for now!
Saturday, June 4, 2011
Such a beautiful day
This is the first Saturday of June, and it is a beautiful one. My daughters and I went to the farmer's market this morning. I found some beautiful plants and vegetables. I also bought lunch for my mother and me - vegan cuisine. I don't think my mother realized it!
Yesterday was my last day at work. I don't think it's really "hit" me yet, as I did the same thing that I do every year at this time. Finish grades, clean up, and leave. When August comes, I will realize that it's actually over, and I'm not going back.
Right now, I am watching television - Haunted History - so fun!, and setting goals for the future. I have a ton of things to do before I can begin my "second" - or is it my "third" career, but I can plan and dream about what I hope to do. I am planning on creating web sites and other things to advertise on the Internet and placing ads in the paper. I've been through a lot, and I think I have a lot to share with others about coping with difficulties in life. If you need me, I am here. I will be your life coach.
Yesterday was my last day at work. I don't think it's really "hit" me yet, as I did the same thing that I do every year at this time. Finish grades, clean up, and leave. When August comes, I will realize that it's actually over, and I'm not going back.
Right now, I am watching television - Haunted History - so fun!, and setting goals for the future. I have a ton of things to do before I can begin my "second" - or is it my "third" career, but I can plan and dream about what I hope to do. I am planning on creating web sites and other things to advertise on the Internet and placing ads in the paper. I've been through a lot, and I think I have a lot to share with others about coping with difficulties in life. If you need me, I am here. I will be your life coach.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
The first day of June
I can't believe that the last day of school is finally here. Tomorrow is the final student day, and Friday is my last day - forever - of school. I may substitute, but I don't think that I will ever teach full time again. I want to do counseling. I feel like counseling is a calling. I love it! Helping people find their way is what I want to do for my life's work. Nothing else is more fulfilling. Keeping my fingers crossed that I will be able to do what I want - and be able to help people in the process.
Monday, May 30, 2011
Memorial Day
I'm looking forward to "retirement." I'm hoping to be able to do presentations on a variety of topics ranging from psychological to storytelling. I will be working on speeches and presentations in the future as well as making crafts to go on my daughter's and my websites - I love Etsy!
I also want to tutor as I enjoy teaching, and I want to write. There are a lot of things that I'm interesting in, and I hope to share information that I have learned along the way with others.
I also want to tutor as I enjoy teaching, and I want to write. There are a lot of things that I'm interesting in, and I hope to share information that I have learned along the way with others.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Next to the last Tuesday
Rather a bad day today. I ached all day and am still aching dreadfully now. At least, I can put my feet up. This rainy Indiana weather is taking a toll on my body this year. Usually in the nearly summer time, I feel better. I'm still hoping to relocate to another area where it's dryer - I just don't want hoter! I guess, though, that I can always tell clients that I understand what others are going through.
The girls went to a movie together this afternoon - the bridesmaid one - they said it wasn't as good as advertised. One reason why I don't go to movies very often. It's just too much money for no more entertainment than it is. When you can get DVD's at the dollar stores and garage sales, why bother?
I'm looking forward to setting up my web sites. I think I'll also run ads in the paper for tutoring and music lessons. I need to prepare brochures for other things - like storytelling - and put out newsletters and send emails to daycares, etc. I have so many ideas going through my brain; I'm very excited!
The girls went to a movie together this afternoon - the bridesmaid one - they said it wasn't as good as advertised. One reason why I don't go to movies very often. It's just too much money for no more entertainment than it is. When you can get DVD's at the dollar stores and garage sales, why bother?
I'm looking forward to setting up my web sites. I think I'll also run ads in the paper for tutoring and music lessons. I need to prepare brochures for other things - like storytelling - and put out newsletters and send emails to daycares, etc. I have so many ideas going through my brain; I'm very excited!
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